We Are NOT a Match

We are NOT a Match

We are not a match I am on the Marta train heading from the College Park Park-n-ride heading to Downtown Atlanta. I see a young man, probably 19 or 20 approach a young lady around the same age, they look like college students. The young man says, “hey, how you doing? You doing alright today?” She sort of just looks at him and turns away. He reaches out to her and taps her to get her attention “You look really pretty, how are you doing today? Okay?” She looks at her friend sitting next to her and says “why do guys always try to talk to me on the train? What do I want with a man riding the train?” Feelings hurt and feeling rejected, the young man just walks away. Wow. Let’s take a closer look at this situation.

She would not talk to him because he is on the train with her. I guess she is stating that he may not have a car or transportation, so she doesn’t want to deal with him. Well, he might have a car at the park and ride like me OR maybe his car is in the shop, or may be doesn’t have one, is that a reason to dismiss him? If he did have a car or did drive, he may have never had the chance to see you. So, this instance made me think of other things. 

I often hear females list off all the things that they desire, demand and require their man to have: a certain status, job, income, education, car, residence, and other criteria. This is funny to me, a female doesn’t want to talk to a man with a child, but she has three of her own. A female wants a man with a car, but she doesn’t have one. She wants a man with a college degree, but she doesn’t have one. She wants to have a man with a good job, manager, doctor, lawyer, etc. but she works in fast food or some other type of minimum wage job. 

I hear women say, “why can’t I get a professional man,” but they are not a professional woman. So, why would a man want to be with you, what do you have to bring to the table? You ever heard the term equally yoked? This message is not for the females who have a job, their own place, their own car, no kids, education, and career and expect the same from their mate. This message is for those women who are unrealistic. 

This message is for the cashier at Wal-Mart that wants to the Public Account that works for the City. Nothing wrong with that really, but She is also the one who refuses to date her fellow co-worker who is a bagger because he “is a bagger at Wal-Mart.” I think that some times people have to be real with themselves. 


You want a man with a great body, but you are overweight. You want a man with no baby mama drama, but you are constantly arguing with your baby’s daddy. Let’s be realistic. Let’s take an honest look at yourself, rate all of your good qualities and look for someone who would be a good match for YOU.