Before I was married, I was dating a female and she told me that she was “just friends” with her ex-boyfriend. Maybe if they were 10 years removed.. well, even then, I wouldn’t buy it. How can you go from being in a romantic sexual relationship with someone, to “just friends.”
Maybe women have different feelings than men, I don’t know. But with men, if you ever cross the line and have sex, he is thinking “if I had the opportunity, I would do it again.”
So, no matter what he says about being “just friends,” let your guard down and kiss him and see if he don’t jump all over you trying to get into your pants. You already crossed that path before, so why not do it again, it should be easier this time.
So, someone tells me “me and this guy I know are just friends.” When I heard that, I was like “okay, it is possible.” Then she said “we did have sex, but we are just friends.” Hold up, rewind that back about 10 seconds and say that again! Let me say this and please listen closely: once you have sex with your friend, you are no longer in a friendship, you are in a sexual relationship, even if you have no intensions on becoming a couple. You talk on the phone, text, have lunch together, hang out occasionally, no physical attraction on either side… then you are “just friends.” If you happen to have sex with someone who you really weren’t dating, i.e. co-worker, your friend’s cousin, etc. then you are in a “sexual relationship” with them. Please do not confuse the 2. AND, if you have sex with someone and you want it go to back to “normal,” it never does permanently.
If you have successfully had sex with your “friend” and NEVER had sex or kissed him after that day, AND he hasn’t tried to have sex with you again or begged to be with you and you are just “friends” now, then let me know. I don’t know if that exists.
I was with a man for over a year, ending out relationship when I realized I wasn't ready to be in a serious relationship. We decided to stay friend's, and have remained very close for over 2 years since we broke up (and have/are dating other people). Never once have either of us crossed boundaries. He is also still friends with another lady he dated, whom I also became friends with through him. We value each other as individuals and have many deep life conversations, strictly as 2 friends who care for one another.
ReplyDeleteI was with a man for over a year, ending out relationship when I realized I wasn't ready to be in a serious relationship. We decided to stay friend's, and have remained very close for over 2 years since we broke up (and have/are dating other people). Never once have either of us crossed boundaries. He is also still friends with another lady he dated, whom I also became friends with through him. We value each other as individuals and have many deep life conversations, strictly as 2 friends who care for one another.
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