“Why is it that a man is interesting in you, chases and pursues you, then when you are together, he doesn’t seem to appreciate you?” That question is loaded. There could be a lot of reasons. Men, by nature love a chase. Men value a woman that they have to put time and energy into. The reason for that is the whole idea of “not everyone can ‘get’ this woman, you have to be someone special to be with her.” Men also like a challenge, at least real men do.
So, why do things change when the chase is over?
#1 – The chase is exciting
For some reason, it is exciting to try to figure someone out, get someone to change their mind, to win them over. It is fun when a lady plays hard to get, ONLY if she does show that there is some interest and some flirting going on. For example, 1st date is over, the man leans in for the kiss and the lady turns away and says “I don’t kiss on the first date.” She smiles, maybe even winks, then walks away. How much more does that guy value your kiss now? Not everyone kisses those lips. The slight tease is exciting.
#2 – Now that the relationship is here, what are you doing to keep it exciting?
Do you get stuck into a routine? Go out to movies on Friday night, come home, have sex. Dinner on Saturday nights, come home have sex. Do you wear anything sexy? Do you keep your look fresh and new? D you still flirt with him? Do you try new things together?
#3 – People get relaxed and complacent once they feel they have obtained something.
Sort of like someone who goes to school, they get a the job they have always wanted. The first few years, the pay, the environment, and job satisfaction is great. 10 years down the line, doing the same job, it is no longer exciting. The employ starts showing up to work late, not dressing their best, showing up late to meetings, and not always on their best behavior. They get comfortable and slack off on all the things that were necessary to “get the job.”
#4 – It was only just a chase
I hate to say it. Some men chase a woman just to see if he can “get her.” Not because he really likes her, but just to see if he has the ability to obtain something desired by others. When I was in high school, everyone had their eye on one female. Everyone thought she was so sexy. I approached her and we were a couple in no time. After being with her, I realized that she was NOT for me, not my type, not what I really wanted. I just did it to see if I could be with the person that everyone wanted. After we were together, the “chase” was over. That was immature and I was young at the time, but it still happens with older men (not me of course!).
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