Why do men lie?
I think a better question is, why do people lie? Let’s face it, in relationships, men lie about who they were with, where they’ve been and money. So, when a man is lying, its probably about him NOT being where he said he was OR lying about money.
The most common is in regards to where he has been. I am going to keep it 100% with you, I have lied to my wife about where I was, because I didn’t want to hear the argument about it and I just really needed time alone. I was not cheating on her, just needed some “me” time. I wish we had the relationship where she understood, but she didn’t. So, I told her that I went to workout and really I was over my friend’s house playing playstation. She thinks that video games for a grown man is a waste of time and she would be SO upset that I would chose to use a few hours of my day to “play.” But let’s be real, I am not the norm. Most men are going to lie when they were either cheating or doing something that was borderline cheating.
Why do men do things that they know they will have to tell a lie to cover it up? 1 – they enjoy it and think that they can get away with it. 2 – they feel that if they do get caught, their lady will be mad, but won’t leave them 3 – they truly are NOT happy in their relationship and they are seeking outside pleasure. Let’s face it, it hurts when you were lied to, but its usually what the lie is covering up that may be the source of the problem.
So, your man said he was over his friend’s house at a bar-b-q, but really went to the movies with a female co-worker. You find out about it. You ask him “Why did you lie to me, who is this chick?” Its obvious why he lied, he was going out with another woman. What you need to be asking is “what is it in our relationship that we need to fix?” or “do you still love me or do we need to go our separate ways?” Get over the lying, who cares, that is not the problem, if he didn’t do the dirt, he wouldn’t have to lie. He did his “dirt” because he was not happy. Why is he no longer happy in the relationship?
As far as money, most men and women lie about it because deep down, they are probably doing something with the money that the other person doesn’t agree on or don’t want to share. My ex’s best friend got a child support settlement and student loan refund money and didn’t tell her husband. She bought her and her children new clothes, had a day at the spa, took her and her friends out to eat. She put the rest of the money aside for a rainy day. Why didn’t she tell her husband? Her husband was not responsible with money. He found out about her hiding money and you know it was a big argument and what did she do? Lied about the amount of money and what she did with it all. The root cause? Her husband is not good with money, so she withheld if from him, so he would not blow it.
