Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Older Men Jealous or Insecure?


A younger lady asked me why is that older men that she dates are always really jealous? I think it is insecurity on their part, not really jealously. They may feel that they need to work extra hard to keep their younger lady interested and not interested in a younger man, but that is on a case by case bases and it is ALL about being secure with themselves.

I have to say, my wife cheated on me and it made me question my worth, my appearance, and all that. I was a huge strike to my ego. I am very secure now.... I have been approached my younger women and I have to wonder the reason for the attraction opposed to a younger guy. So, I guess some men are like, she is 8 years or more younger than me, why is she attracted to me instead of someone her own age?

If you are dating an older man, you should tell him why you are attracted to him. Early on in the relationship, you should reaffirm the attraction that it is sincere. He might think that you have ulterior motives for being in the relationship.

You also need to think about what type of personality you have. Are you flirtatious? Extremely friendly? I had an attractive girlfriend who was very “friendly” to everyone. She always smiled and said hello or started conversations with complete strangers. Some men would think that she was interested in them and then she would have to tell them, “No, I don’t want your phone number, I am in a relationship, I was just being nice.” Some men can not deal with a woman like this, you need to find out what your man is comfortable with.


Tuesday, November 9, 2010

How do you measure love?


In the movies Brothers the Mother is explaining how you can really tell if a man loves you. She says, if he gives you the last bite of food that you are eating together, then he loves you.

I don’t believe that, but let’s look at that concept. What do you signify as a sign of love? What is it that you do ONLY if you love someone? I know that I am in LOVE with someone if get me to go to watch a movie that I refuse to watch. Or, if there is something that I am 100% against and they get me to do it anyway, then I know love is involved. But this could be different for everyone. 

Here is where confusion sets in, you think that someone loves you because they let you eat the last piece of food, but they show their love in another way. They can eat the last piece of food and it is not because they DON’T love you, it may be for another reason. 

I am not a big talker on the phone. I will text more than I will talk. I like being in person more than talking on the phone. Someone may think that I am not feeling them because I do not talk on the phone with them for hours and hours. Or someone might not think I am interested because I only text once a day or once every other day. Other people may get another feeling. They might think because this person texts them every day, then they really like them.

What do you do for someone to signify your love? How does someone know that you really love them? What do you want someone to do for you to show you that they really love you?